Think of the person who loves you most. What if you repeatedly betrayed him, frequently intentionally sought to hurt her, ignored her, verbally abused him, committed acts of hate against him, or constantly took her for granted or violated her trust? How long do you think that person would really love you? The love which we often call unconditional love is really quite conditional. The condition is that the person treats us and others within certain relational, ethical, moral, and legal boundaries and parameters.
The incidence of broken marriages, broken families, and broken relationships tells us that unconditional love isn’t all that we brag it to be. As an example, there are very few people that we wholeheartedly love, without reservation, who constantly commit egregious atrocities against us or our family. What we really mean by unconditional love is that the person won’t be committing egregious or atrocious acts against us. However, since this is a condition, our love isn’t really unconditional. Unconditional love says there is not a condition in which we won’t totally and fully love the person. The term unconditional love is very much overused.
Mankind needs love. There just isn’t true inner peace, harmony, or self-worth without it. Unfortunately, we desire the kind of love which was made popular with the 1960’s LSD drug culture: Unconditional love. We want to be freely and fully loved with no conditions - - - to be fully and freely loved no matter what we do, how we behave, or what we think. In other words, we want to be loved without any strings attached - - - without any responsibility or accountability on our part. We want “free love.” Isn’t that sweet? Isn’t that so very convenient for us? Not even God offers unconditional love. What?!!!!!! We’ll talk about that tomorrow.